Time Management…. True / False?

     From a very young age, we all have been subjected to importance of time and why we shouldn’t waste it. Now a days, ‘Efficient Time Management’ is such a hot topic that no one can resist oneself to ignore it. Well that’s at least my story. I don’t feel proud to admit this but I do waste time and used to think that biggest issue with me is the fact that I don’t manage my time effectively. It took me light years to understand the concept that neither I nor any human being on the earth has the ability to control time. Then how can we accuse others or even ourselves of inefficient time management?


    To keep this short and simple, time is/was/will be always the independent factor. Neither will it wait for anyone nor anyone can stop time. Something that is not in our control cannot be managed. That is why I believe that time management is a lie. Yup, its false! Okay now try to remember those days when you used to make a study time table and always ended up discarding it and making a new one. With the course of time you accept the fact that you can never stick to the time table and hence don’t waste your precious time making one! Ever wondered why?


   While making a time table we consider about the time we have/need. We prioritize time over us! Try to remember if you ever tried to study a topic within one hour without even realizing that topic isn’t as small as it seems or you tried to complete an assignment within one hour but it took three hours to complete it. Therefore, we fail to keep up with our time table because we forget about the dependent factor ~ Our self.


     We definitely can’t control time but we can obviously control our mind and do the work. It was never about managing time instead all about how you wish to spend your time. It is a every day test for all of us to know how discipline and consistent we are to our work. All the successful people we see and all the success stories we hear and read are the result of their consistent efforts to improve themselves and that was not a one day process. It was challenging, uncomfortable yet a worthwhile period of their life who chose to do the work even when they didn’t wanted to and today live the life that many of us like dream.


      We all are getting 24 hours. What we make out of it only depends on us and not on time or amount of work we have. And also embrace the fact that we will frequently fall but your constant perseverance, dedication and attitude towards your commitment will not let the effects of the fall last for long. So instead of asking or searching a perfect solution for time management or watching videos of how to make a time table, ask yourself what to do right now that will help you to manage yourself for the coming time.


   Thank you guys for reading! I just shared my point of view. Please do share your views below in the comment box, like, share and follow me. Thanks again! Catch you all really soon!





What They Got, Yet What They Did

They had dreams, they had a vision
They knew they are not supposed to be just outstanding
Rather be the One who outshines everyone.
They had resources, they had the Will to Change
But alas, they were missing something important!
Looks like they didn’t have enough commitment towards their dream and their vision.
Neither were they devoted enough to want it as badly as a drowning man wants to breathe
Nor they wanted to work for it right now and instead decided to wait for the right moment
They failed to be disciplined and consistent to their goals,
And as the life brought challenges, they decided to settle for less,
They kept lying to themselves “Comfort Zone is the best” with their favorite past time
That is to judge and blame others while complaining “Life is so unfair to me!”
For the time will come when they will know that they didn’t live their full potential,
realizing that they didn’t succeed because they found it easy to delimit oneself
instead of grinding their ass off.





(Okay, so this my first haiku. Please point out the mistakes i.e. if you find any)

Story of Every Broken Heart…


Did you hear that noise?

Something shattering with the speed of light

My hopes, Your promises, Goodbye!


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Its okay to fall in Love With Yourself!

Hello my dear fellas! How worn out are you? Feeling life is getting harder and merciless day by day? Do you feel like everything is going out of your control? But still you’re living it? Hmmm, seems like your life is making you stronger and preparing for the worst. Hey, I know its hard and I’ve no right to say how to live your life. But recently some instances proved me that we humans are experts while solving others problems but when it comes to our problems, we either fail to sort it out well or solve it in the worst way possible. Stop blaming yourself or hating yourself, because you’re not the only person suffering from this.

I recently met Pansy (that’s not her real name obviously) who told me that her problems in life are not small, petty issues. According to her, she lost the balance of a life when the love of her life, the only person she loved most, her boyfriend, Mr. Worthless (that’s what he is in real life) left her because she is fat. Now he is going to marry another lady. Pansy got so much depressed that she was admitted. Worst part: She believes God and her parents are responsible for this. She still wants to be worthless and won’t let anyone say a word against him. Pansy will never admit the fact that even though she loved him but he only lusted for her. I am not angry but really feel bad for her. I have no right to say what should she do. Since a share a therapeutic relationship with her, the only thing I can do is counsel.

“You’ll never understand what I feel. Don’t get me wrong, but you never fell in love.”

That’s what she told me when I tried to counsel her. I didn’t say anything at that time because for the time being I thought she was right. I never got into a relationship. Even though I was in love it was worst phase of my life. But then I realize that she was wrong.

Being in a relationship isn’t something that only a couple can have, something that only involves kissing, dates and showing off. Its about being with someone who accepts you as you are, where you are happy, where nobody judges you and you can express yourself without the fear of being judged. But unfortunately the relationship with our family and friends is the most ignored relationship. We take them for granted (sometimes I do that). But by witnessing Pansy’s parents unconditional love for her I realized how self indulgent. I am. I care about the people who don’t even know I exist but I don’t care about the people who love me more than I deserve. But then that is what we all humans do, right?


With my family which includes my parents, brother, grandparents and all the uncles and aunts, I’ve ‘sugar and spice and everything nice’ type relationship. Yes, we do fight, but then I can’t imagine my life without them. As for my friends, I do admit I’m the worst friend who fails to express her love but always will be there when they need me. I don’t have many friends but whomever I have, they are too precious to be lost. We have this crazy relationship with each other and can totally depend on each other.

So back to the objective of today’s blog. For those who think life is so unfair to you, tired of resolving your problems, you can try all this and I assure you, You’ll feel better. So please read this article till the end and do suggest your opinions: –

  1. Talk it out to your family: Lets say that you might face difficulty in telling every single person in your family your feelings, but still there will be always that one person on whom you can count on. It can be your mom, dad, sister, brother or anyone who you think won’t judge you and most importantly will keep it a secret.


2. Talk to your friend: We all have that one best friend we know are very good in keeping secrets and won’t judge for what we are. Even you must be having one. Don’t shy away. Talk to them. Tell how are you feeling. Express your issues, concerns and fears, they may not be able to give you an accurate solution but at least they will patiently listen to you! And omg trust me this one works really well. Your stressed up mind may get relieved and will get calm for sometime.


3. Write it down in a paper: Take a paper and pen and start writing down whatever you are feeling. Don’t take a break or leave it incomplete. Keep writing as long as you haven’t expressed yourself fully. Don’t worry about grammar or spelling mistakes. After writing it, read it (if you want to) then tear it down (so that nobody can read it). This was not as effective as talking to the friend but yes it did help me a lot. How it will help if you’re asking; it will help you to introspect yourself, your problems and finally give you many reasons to fall in love with yourself, again. 🙂


4. And finally, don’t give up: Life is hard. It always was. Just ask yourself: What was easy in your life? Was school life easy? Was college life easy? Keeping up with friends is easy? Tolerating pollution is easy? Witnessing human stupidity is easy? College life was/is easy? But you did it! You are a brave fighter. Keep on fighting. And don’t you ever think that you’re alone in this. Your family, friends and your well wishers are with you, every time. So keep believing in yourself.


Make sure to read this, like, comment and please share as more as possible. Catch you all again. Until then, take care all you brave hearts! And yes, do pray for Pansy!

Here comes Onam!

Hello gurls and guys of all ages! Okay let me apologize again for not publishing anything last week. I swear I was so busy. Let me summarize my busy days as shortly as possible: –

Me - Leader (lol) - group of 26 - group activity - Roleplay - settling accounts

Yup. And I survived 😀

Anyway, today I’m going to introduce you to a festival celebrated in Kerala, India (YUSS, I’m a Indian Mallu Boo!). Consider this as a short guide about EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT ONAM and WHY YOU SHOULD VISIT KERALA DURING ONAM


Onam is a religious, cultural and harvest festival celebrated in Kerala during August – September and celebrated with great joy and enthusiasm among different communities. It lasts for 4-10 days, the first day being Atham and 10th day being Thiruonam.

Any Legend?

YUPPERS! There was a Asura (Demon) King Mahabali who used to rule Kerala. Everyone was happy and the kingdom was prosperous, also called the Golden Era our state. When Mahabali defeated Gods, they approached Lord Vishnu to help him defeat Mahabali. Instead Lord Vishnu decided to test Mahabali’s devotion towards him. So Lord Vishnu took avatar of a Dwarf boy Vamana and approached King Mahabali while he was doing Yajna (homa sacrifices).King Mahabali already declared that he will grant anyone any request during Yajna, Vamana asked for  property right over a piece of land that measures “three paces” and Mahabali agreed. The Vamana grew and covered everything Mahabali ruled over in just two paces. For the third pace, King Mahabali offered himself, an act which Vishnu accepted as evidence of King Mahabali’s devotion. Vishnu granted him a boon, by which King Mahabali could visit again, once every year, the lands and people he previously ruled and was attached to.


What are special stuffs done on Onam?

Again I tell you, if you want to see how onam is celebrated, you must visit Kerala to enjoy it truly.

  1. Vallamkali (Snake Boat Race) : It is held on the river Pampa. A very beautiful sight to see the decorated boat oared by hundreds of boatmen 150 men of which four are helsmen, 25 men are singers and 125 are the actual oarsmen  while chanting the songs and cheering by spectators. It is depiction of team spirit. A single mistake can create imbalance and overturn the boat.


2. Dress Code: White and off white with golden border is the traditional color that is worn during this occasion, the color of the blouse can be any but green and red are one of the most attractive colors. The classic matching color which is same as of the saree’s color is also a good choice. On the occasion of onam, white-colored mundu or dhoti with kasavu border combined with a white-colored shirt or kurta is the favourite of all men.


3. Pookalam: Pookalam is an intricate and colourful arrangement of flowers laid on the floor. Tradition of decorating Pookalam is extremely popular in Kerala and is followed as a ritual in every household during ten-day-long Onam celebrations. Girls prepare elaborate Pookalams in front of courtyard of house to welcome their most loved King.


Yup. Flowers, leaves, creativity, hard work but lots of love. You can find more.

4. Extracurricular Activities: Haha, don’t laugh! I didn’t know what to call it exactly, but this festival involves series of games like Talappanthukali (played with ball), Ambeyyal (Archery), Kutukutu and combats called Kayyankali and Attakalam. While women with all the grace perform Thumbi Thullal and my personal favorite Kaikotti kali.


5. Onasadya: Any guesses what it means? Like any other popular festival, Onam has a great feast too! Called Onasadya. And you should definitely try it. It is prepared on Thiruonam (Yes, the tenth day, but its worth it). The last day of Mahabali’s stay is remembered with a nine-course vegetarian Onasadya feast consisting of 11 to 13 essential dishes.  It is served on banana leaves and people sit on a mat laid on the floor to have the meal. It generally includes banana chips, Pappadam, Thoran, Avial, Sambhar, Rasam, Pulliseri (also known as Velutha curry), Pachadi, Moru (curd with water), pickles and many more things. (I know you have no idea what I’m talking about, but you’ll soon).


Aye Hawkeye! Noticed that creamy thingy in the glass with almonds on it? Its the BOSS! BOSS! Its Payasam babe. (Called Kheer in North India!) The feast ends with Payasam, a dessert made of milk, sugar or jaggery.


So this is the Payasam/Kheer/ Whatever you call it in your location made by mom today. There are various types of Payasam too! This one is made from Semiya (Vermicelli) my personal favorite. Its so yummy.

I don’t know how many of you know this but Government of India has taken due notice of this vibrant and colorful festival. It promotes Onam internationally in a big way and celebrates ‘Tourist Week’ for Kerala during Onam celebrations. Thousands of domestic and foreign tourists visit Kerala to be a part of Onam. And let me tell you Kerala is really beautiful place. You must visit it almost every year. (Do I sound like a telly shop ad model?) Anyway, its your wish. Let me remind you that I didn’t cover all the facts about onam. Maybe sometime soon. Catch you guys later. Byeeee!

When My Mood Swings

When my mood swings, nothing will be fine
Cause they don't know the line between wrong and right
They'll make me do things all day till night
Which I'm gonna regret all my life.

But still I will do whatever my dear mood says
I'll push away common sense if it comes down my way
"Why are you doing this stupidity?" if somebody asks
I'll simply reply "I love guilty pleasure tasks!"

So without wasting too much of time,
I started making a mountain out of molehill,
The issues that I've forgotten long ago
Suddenly started to matter me!

Tears started to roll down my eyes
For a reason only God knows why?
Fitting in the tag for Damsel in distress
I myself contribute in building up the stress.

I shouted, I screamed, I ate a lot
And always believe "I'm not gonna regret this at all"
But when the whirl wind of common sense knocked me bad
Regrets, regrets and fat is all I had!

"This damage is beyond repair" when shouted my brain
"It still can be restored again" whispered by faith
So holding the hands of some lovely people
I decide to get up and improve my situation.

Things won't be the same I know
Neither it will be easy as it was till day
But as long as you're not a slave of your moods,
You're ready for anything, anytime on any day!

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Why so Angry Homo Sapiens?

Hello everyone! How are you guys? Hope you all are doing fine. May the Almighty give you the grace to deal your problems more wisely. Yes by wisely I meant using that so called common sense instead of being aggressive.

Personally I am not a big fan of Anger. If someone shouts at me, I feel terrible. And imagine the pain if that someone is the person I love. I am sure the same happens with everyone. Even though you didn’t drop a tear outside, you have already died a thousand times inside. However anger was not taken very seriously until in recent years when people started taking lives of other person because they lost temper. Yes, I am not at all kidding. Check out the sites given below and read out this horror story yourself.

Angry Delhi: How city makes mountain out of molehill, draws blood for nothing

Sad, isn’t it? We will never know the depth of a problem as long as some humans doesn’t loose their life. This reports are just few examples. Who knows how many such reports went unnoticed. People would think twice before disagreeing because who knows whether they will be alive to say next sentence 😐
To be honest, I don’t think its just a Delhi problem. Anger is everywhere in different forms. I am just trying to point out it by giving example of my city. It breaks my heart to admit the fact that in my city a petty disagreement with almost anyone can land me into a big trouble. Dama
So in today’s post, let’s relish our memories about anger. What is anger, according to you? According to me, its a sudden outburst of emotions which gives a temporary relief and lifelong regret. If you agree with me, we are on the same page, YAY!  If you want to add something more in my definition, please use comment box. Thank you! Now some facts about anger: –

1. The damage caused by anger is too much than we think: I am sure the makers of Hydrogen bomb blasted in Hiroshima and Nagasaki would have never thought it will have such big impact. Did they ever slept peacefully? Have they ever thought how will they recreate the destroyed…. Now imagine yourself in their place. Throwing anger like bombs and in process hurting a lot of people. It’s horrible.


2. When in anger, we cross the line between the right and the wrong: The dominant anger will blindfold your brain, manipulate your heart. In short, your common sense will stop working. The person you will find right is you yourself and by the time you’ll understand your mistake, it will be too late.

3. It causes a lot of damage to yourself: It affects your health. Increase in blood pressure, risk of heart diseases, stress, depression, loosing the people who care about you… I don’t think I need to say more?

So what can we do?
Simple. Whenever I get angry, I start taking deep breaths for… 5 seconds and the next moment I am back to normal. I know it sounds so stupid and lame. But it is so true and effective. You guys should try this too! Or share your little tricks to keep your anger at bay. The other thing we can do I observe. Look around you. Do you know anyone who looses temper easily. That may be the person you love most (yes even you yourself). Talk to your elders about this or get professional/medical help.
The last but not the least, spread the word! Let everyone know what a small anger outburst can cost us.  So please like 😊 comment 😁 share 😇 follow 😉

Catch you all soon. Next week!